Last week we talked about the loss of bond as one of the reasons people cheat.
But you may have seen or heard of couples that are happy and yet one partner strays. The revelation of such affairs can be hurtful to the betrayed partner, sometimes leading to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
The reasons people could cheat despite being happy … Read the rest
A newlywed young Jewish woman; Bluma Zeigarnik sat in a café in Vienna and watched as professional waiters listened and took large orders from a good number of people without writing anything down. Then she watched as the waiters hurried from table to kitchen to table remembering everything the customers asked for.
However, when she interviewed the waiters after they … Read the rest
Often, the honeymoon phase comes to an end when the couple begins to become more aware of each other’s weaknesses.
This phase which I will like to refer to as ‘the disenchantment phase’, partners begin to get irritated by the very attribute about their partner that once attracted them. Quiet and patient begins to look more as ‘lily-livered’ slow—fun and … Read the rest
Do you and your partner have issues of which you have not been able to find a compromise?
Does it feel like talking makes the situation worse?
Does this conflict make you feel rejected by your partner?
When you talk about it tempers flare, and you both end up hurting each other.
Have you noticed that over time you have … Read the rest
During the very first year of our marriage, we were out with other family members, and my husband made a joke that everyone laughed at but me.
When we were finally home I told him I wasn’t happy with the joke he made because I felt it put me in a bad light, he was shocked at first and then … Read the rest
Ever so often, couples have quarrels or conflicts where they say mean things to each other, criticise each other and are defensive.
These words could hurt the partners and gradually destroy the relationship from within.
But successful couple know how dangerous these words said in anger can be and what exactly to do about it least it takes its toll … Read the rest
Very often the question of what qualities to look for in a prospective mate is asked, and answers range from as follows;
The person should be kind and loving to their family and yours
Friendly, good looking and can dress well, polite, honest and has a good reputation
For women; neat with excellent home-keeping qualities, respectful etc
For men; he … Read the rest
Our upbringing, environment and our significant emotional experiences shaped our lives. This help to structure our values, beliefs, attitudes, decisions, they even determine what we like or dislike and why.
These three factors (upbringing, environment and significant experiences) that shaped us to the persons we are were all not pleasant experiences. Many of them occurred before we met our spouses … Read the rest
It’s easy for couples to get lost in work and family demands that they forget to give their relationship time.
For any relationship to thrive their most be conversations, it is the reason we are admonished to pray regularly and read the holy scriptures to maintain our relationship with our Creator.
Due to the pressures of work, raising children and … Read the rest
Growing up one of the recurring complaint my parents and siblings had about me was that I was
stubborn. For years I was ashamed of this part of myself, tried to push it aside, deny it, hide it
etc.
Coming in contact with Innocent Minds and the tools of NLP helped me reframe this trait and
embrace it.
When I … Read the rest