My earlier days with getting my daughter prepared for school and dressed for the cold often went something like this;
Me; Eta the weather is cold, wear your cardigan
Eta; I am not feeling cold, I don’t need the cardigan
Me; please take your cardigan
Eta; No
Me; You are not leaving this house without if you are not wearing … Read the rest
The second reason people may have a challenge handling their conflict is their conflict resolution styles. There are three kinds of conflict resolution styles; the fighter, the avoider, and the resolver.
THE FIGHTER: The fighter is that person who would generally have a screaming match. They say what they feel like they feel it, and may or may not use … Read the rest
Mary and her husband, David, are having another fight. Mary had only recently resigned her job to become a stay home mother to their two young kids; this was a decision she was happy-making, but the transition has not been smooth.
She has become very irritable lately, and David frustrated with their many fights. As Mary greets David on arrival … Read the rest
During the very first year of our marriage, we were out with other family members, and my husband made a joke that everyone laughed at but me.
When we were finally home I told him I wasn’t happy with the joke he made because I felt it put me in a bad light, he was shocked at first and then … Read the rest
Ever so often, couples have quarrels or conflicts where they say mean things to each other, criticise each other and are defensive.
These words could hurt the partners and gradually destroy the relationship from within.
But successful couple know how dangerous these words said in anger can be and what exactly to do about it least it takes its toll … Read the rest
Over the last couple of weeks, I have been thinking a lot about foundations. Because of my work in the construction industry, I understand the critical role foundation plays.
Many factors come to play in the selection of the type of foundation some are; the bearing capacity (strength) of the soil on which the building will rest, the amount of … Read the rest
Our upbringing, environment and our significant emotional experiences shaped our lives. This help to structure our values, beliefs, attitudes, decisions, they even determine what we like or dislike and why.
These three factors (upbringing, environment and significant experiences) that shaped us to the persons we are were all not pleasant experiences. Many of them occurred before we met our spouses … Read the rest
It’s easy for couples to get lost in work and family demands that they forget to give their relationship time.
For any relationship to thrive their most be conversations, it is the reason we are admonished to pray regularly and read the holy scriptures to maintain our relationship with our Creator.
Due to the pressures of work, raising children and … Read the rest
Growing up one of the recurring complaint my parents and siblings had about me was that I was
stubborn. For years I was ashamed of this part of myself, tried to push it aside, deny it, hide it
etc.
Coming in contact with Innocent Minds and the tools of NLP helped me reframe this trait and
embrace it.
When I … Read the rest