STRATEGIC PARENTING 1

‘Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it’ proverbs 22:6

This book of ageless wisdom advises the training of children but how?

Many parents are proud when their kids can recite a Bible or Qur’anic verse(s), we call them Pastors or Imams, insist on sending them to … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE AND HIDDEN AGENDAS (FINAL)

It has been two weeks since Chinedu and Nneka his wife starting being intentional about meeting each other’s needs. Two nights ago, as the couple talked just before bedtime, they felt a strong sense of connection. Chinedu confessed to his wife at some point during the conversation that he had never felt this close to anyone.

Nneka was excited, her … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE AND HIDDEN AGENDAS 5

We have been looking at the marriage of Chinedu and Nneka for four weeks now, today is the fifth episode.

Last week we looked at Chinedu and Nneka’s statement of the needs to each other, they were specific, measurable and stated as wishes. Chinedu looked at his wife’s requests and selected the once he thought would be easier to do … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE AND HIDDEN AGENDAS 4

After Chinedu and Nneka had created the much-needed empathic environment to work through their marital problem, they both made a list of the things they need from each other to feel loved and secured in the relationship. Nneka’s list was as follows;

1) Call me to let me know how you doing at least twice during working hours .

2) … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE AND HIDDEN AGENDAS 3

Nneka told her husband how much she had always longed to have a man that was homely and physically affectionate. 
Her father was not around a lot, when he was, he was very critical and inaccessible, this greatly affected his relationship with her mother and eventually with his children.
 Nneka went on to say, as a result of this, her … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE AND HIDDEN AGENDAS 2

Nneka’s dream man; was a man that would show lots of physical affection and spend time with her and their children, but her husband appeared aloof and spent an increasing amount of time outside the home as the months rolled by.
She couldn’t believe that the once caring and loving friend that told her so often; he couldn’t wait for … Read the rest

LOVE, MARRIAGE & HIDDEN AGENDAS

Nneka and Chinedu had a love that could best be described as electric, from the very day they set eyes on each other they knew, they would be more than friends. It felt so right, their friends also confirmed it, they would make a great match. They were so in love.  
The wedding was beautiful, there was great optimism … Read the rest