THIS IS WHO I AM (1)

Michael has been experiencing a lot of self-doubts recently, before his marriage everyone in the small congregation he pastors believed that the woman that would marry him would be a fortunate lady because of his warmth and loving personality.

He was so confident that he had what it took to make any woman happy, but after six months of marriage, … Read the rest

VULNERABLE AND NOT AFRAID

Mary and her husband, David, are having another fight. Mary had only recently resigned her job to become a stay home mother to their two young kids; this was a decision she was happy-making, but the transition has not been smooth.

She has become very irritable lately, and David frustrated with their many fights. As Mary greets David on arrival … Read the rest

WHEN SORRY BECOMES RESPONSIBLE

During the very first year of our marriage, we were out with other family members, and my husband made a joke that everyone laughed at but me.

 When we were finally home I told him I wasn’t happy with the joke he made because I  felt it put me in a bad light, he was shocked at first and then … Read the rest

THE SECRET WEAPON OF RELATIONSHIP MASTERS

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Ever so often, couples have quarrels or conflicts where they say mean things to each other, criticise each other and are defensive.

These words could hurt the partners and gradually destroy the relationship from within.

But successful couple know how dangerous these words said in anger can be and what exactly to do about it least it takes its toll … Read the rest

LAYING THE FOUNDATION OF A LIFETIME.

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Over the last couple of weeks, I have been thinking a lot about foundations. Because of my work in the construction industry, I understand the critical role foundation plays.

Many factors come to play in the selection of the type of foundation some are; the bearing capacity (strength) of the soil on which the building will rest, the amount of … Read the rest

IN SEARCH OF THE RIGHT QUALITIES

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Very often the question of what qualities to look for in a prospective mate is asked, and answers range from as follows;

The person should be kind and loving to their family and yours

Friendly, good looking and can dress well, polite, honest and has a good reputation

For women; neat with excellent home-keeping qualities, respectful etc

For men; he … Read the rest

ENDURING VULNERABILITIES

Our upbringing, environment and our significant emotional experiences shaped our lives. This help to structure our values, beliefs, attitudes, decisions, they even determine what we like or dislike and why.

These three factors (upbringing, environment and significant experiences) that shaped us to the persons we are were all not pleasant experiences. Many of them occurred before we met our spouses … Read the rest

YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS A PRIORITY

It’s easy for couples to get lost in work and family demands that they forget to give their relationship time.

For any relationship to thrive their most be conversations, it is the reason we are admonished to pray regularly and read the holy scriptures to maintain our relationship with our Creator.

Due to the pressures of work, raising children and … Read the rest